I am sorry to hear that your marriage is on the rocks. From what you have written it appears that your wife is hung up on the fact that you have cross dressed and is unwilling to accept this or even discuss it in a therapeutic way with a professional. I find that very sad and it is also sad to think that your marriage may dissolve because of this. In the scheme of life and in marriage I personally don't perceive your cross dressing as being a sin worthy of destroying your relationship. I have to be honest and say that her lack of compassion and understanding in this regard is disappointing. Marriage vows typically include "for better and worse, in sickness and health" etc and these words exemplify the true meaning of love and marriage. No marriage is perfect which is why couples often need to work at it and often need to accept the shortcomings of their partners. I am at a loss as what to advise. Obviously, couples therapy would be great but if she has closed her mind and does not want to address this then you would be wasting your time. As AAAAA pointed out, maybe she needs to do what she feels is necessary (e.g. separate) before she will realize that what she has left was better than she realized. I admire your courage for telling her about your cross dressing and I do feel sorry that you have been punished by her for this to the point where your marriage now hangs in the balance. Chin up and I hope that you can resolve this problem without compromising your marriage and happiness.