My family, especially my parents resent me for being the one who continues to confront problems that happens in the family. I'm Vietnamese and theres a saying that they always use against me and it means something like this in English. I'm the haunting ghost of the family that wont let them rest. I tell my family that I'm not the cause of the problem just because I'm daring and willing to confront what is obvious and they are the ones who want to forget and pretend that things are okay. For as long as I could remember ppl have tried to convience me to try to not let things get to me, to let it go, and basically not take it so personal anymore. Its just so much harder when its your own family that you're up against.

I don't attack my family and tell them all the wrong things that are going on. I approach them in subtle ways and wanting to talk things out and when that doesn't work and it continues to get worst it is then that it turns into a shouting match.

Is it better to continue to live a life and pretending and accepting it for what it is? I feel that I need to confront things not because I want to change ppl but because I want my feelings and who I am to be validated when their actions have affected me. Should I have to put my own validation to silence to keep the home quite?