Rose this is your life and your decisions, but this man is a jackass! None of my children are mistakes although none of them were planned. My twins were conceived after my husband had a vasectomy. He recognized that I was feeling ill all of the time and bought an ept. I took it to shut him up but was shocked to discover I was pregnant.

Your man cannot even put his own desires for his own child. What kind of person does that make him? Why do you think he would treat you any better? I don't see it as a red flag, but a deafening alarm. He has trouble with how your feelings are manifesting because it makes him uncomfortable?