I have a friend that has been in an on and off again friendship for many years with a man who is about 4-5 years younger, than her. Now, when he was in his late 20's, he didn't know what he wanted. And now, after a bit of a hiatus, they are rekindling that friendship, to see where it will lead them, now that he's matured some and life changing moments have occurred in both of their lives.
She doesn't see him, as a younger man, per se. She sees him as a best friend. Someone who she can let her hair down and just be herself, and he accepts her for who she is.
Age is just a number. However, it is interesting that you are bringing to the table, the sense that you are viewing her like a babysitter. That, could be something to be addressed in therapy.
Many of us, in life, have grappled with the notion, of am I setting myself up to be involved with a father or mother figure, with or without the age gap. FOO issues, per se. (Family of Origin).
I guess, I would say, if she's interested, she's interested and isn't viewing you as the age you are, but the person you are.
Hope all goes well on your date!! Hang in there.
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Originally Posted by rolan86
Met a girl on okcupid, and she seems interested in me. I feel so weird right now. I am just so torn as to whether I should go on a date with this girl. The age difference is sort of bothering me. I'm 20 and she is 26. I don't get why I am feeling this way. I have ALWAYS wanted to get with an older girl, if even just to be friends, and I really want to meet her.. it's just that the age gap is sort of intimidating for me. I mean I'm still in college and she already has a masters degree. She knows my age, and still seems to be interested in me, so I guess age doesn't matter for her if she's still texting me. Should this be bothering me? Am I doing something wrong? I just don't know what we would do on a date, or if hanging out. I'd feel like a little kid, like she were a baby sitter or something. Like how much could we relate with each other? Like I just feel it might make her feel like she is chaperoning me or something like that. ughh... Part of me wants to meet her very much, and the other part just wants to run away as fast as I can, delete her contact, and just forget everything and hide. One thing I know for certain though. If I chicken out and run away, I know for a FACT 100% GUARANTEED I will regret. Absolutely NO doubt in my mind about that. When I look back on this summer, once already back at college, I would think. wow. why did I ever let that opportunity go... I messed up big time... I want to look back on this summer and think wow. I met an amazing girl this summer. And just smile. Even if we just remain friends I want to meet her. And with the whole age gap thing, I don't get it. I have ALWAYS wanted to get with/be friends with an older girl. Why is it just that I am 20 that makes this weird? For ANY age of mine it would be the same. Older girl implies age gap. Why can't I just be comfortable about this...
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