I think that she is an unappreciative ***** if she does not see the value you continuously add to the marriage by doing all the cooking and other things. I suggest you leave her immediately and wish her luck finding another husband who will do all of the good things you have been doing while not being a cross-dresser. I do not think that her chances of finding such a husband are good, but if she proves me wrong, more power to her.

You very clearly deserve better. Plus, she free-rides on you. Stop that - see a lawyer about joint custody, etc.

The priest you talked too demonstrated excellent judgment when he pointed out that she does not see shades of gray. People who are unable of seeing shades of gray are very dangerous; monsters, basically. It is not safe to grow old next to such a person. You are much better off without her. She has basically shown her true colors but not telling you - her partner - about something so important. She allowed that tension to grow to enormous proportions and then hit you with that famous line that says that she is not in love with you. OK, not in love with you so she can go. To hell with her!

I cannot tell you how many women would love to have such a nice hard-working husband who does not even need them to embrace his desire to cross-dress but just states that desire in neutral terms without expecting anything. Scores of women would love to have you as a husband!