I am so sad about how the world has placed so much importance on looks.

I love the Nerd t-shirts. I have an idea for one: "Nerd is the real normal. Are you Normal?"

Notice, that statement has nothing to do with looks. To me, nerd is how genuine you are, and how receptive you are to others that are genuine themselves. Putting on a fake front so you can fit in with "cool" is NOT genuine. Stop lusting over those people just because you think they are good looking. You are lusting not only for the boy, but if only you could have the looks of the girl!

You need a big ol' dose of self esteem. That is something that any number of men that are genuine would be thrilled to give you, if only you would be willing to give them the attention that you give to your "dream boy".

Me, I don't lust after women that look a certain way. I lust after women that treat their husbands a certain way. I see it in their eyes. I see in in their body language. I wish my wife had that for me. She is beautiful in my eyes. But not to most. So she settled for me I guess. That isn't good on my self esteem. I treat her like a supermodel. But she doesn't want it from me. She wants to be wanted by someone better than me. I am genuine in my love for her. I am confident in life, but not cocky, and not oppressive.

None of it matters though, because I am not a trophy on her arm at Church on Sunday.

My advice is, find love. And then shun the world when it tries to weaken your love for him with jealousy and envy of others.