For Jenn1fer82,

My pet peeve is when people say...."...but don't take it personal........don't let things get to you.....let it go...."

These are very trite things to say. Whoever said them wasn't truly thinking of the situation as a whole and was saying simply what is easy to say.

You are correct to confront, especially the way you wrote you do it SUBTLY you sound very wise.

What about family therapy? This would provide a safe environment and you wouldn't need to give up your validation.

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