Well during a conversation the guy admitted that he would 'take her in a heartbeat' and that he would not though as he is too old for her and her kids and he also does not mess around with others girlfriends or wives...

BUT NOW...

I let the green eyed monster out a bit and now she is getting tired of repeating the same lines about how she invited me to move with her and help with her kids and had 'relations', something she said she would never do with anyone after her past.

She says she likes the person I am a lot and wants me with her and sees us being together for a long time but now she is getting a little annoyed.

Worst part is the other guy asked if we could all live in a big house together after the move for money reasons, which I agreed with to a degree and now think is a bad idea, and not just because of the jealousy.

He sees himself as her protector and that is fine, even good as I want her safe, but I think if we move into a house and she differs more to his advice then mine or if our advice is at opposite ends of the spectrum's this may cause strife.

Other ppl agreed with this even her friends and when I mentioned it it now seemed like I want her to choose between us in her mind.

Another thing bothering me is that they seem to get along so well and they talk more and smiles at him more etc etc..I know its normal as she has had a rough life and tons of trust issues (which I had the power to get past most of them based on the REAL me, not this jealous idiot!), but it stabs me right in the stomach.

I told her when we were all together it seems like she talks to him more then me and there were even moments when I tried to join in the conversation and was kind of ignored or not heard or talked over.

So we took the kids out for some fun and I just stomped off as they walked in together ahead of me chatting away...

Then the two of them were going to try out some virtual ride thing that seats two and I was asked to if I wanted to go on with her instead...I said no as I hate those things but honestly it was like I felt I was the second choice so wtf?
(But as she said during our talk that night, I walked off)

Then just me and her and the one kid went around together while the other guys and the other kid went around. This should have been her trying to say "hey, here I am, just with you", but what did I do? I acted like an *** and made it worse.

HELP ME PLEASE, I really think I found a good woman who would never hurt me and I don't like these feelings.

My friend pointed out that he is like her teddy bear as she has been through such violent stuff and I want to not only be in that alpha male spot in her heart as her knight on a white horse but that spot is taken he says.

I try and not see things, like how much she smiles at him or when he says something she listens attentively and

He also said that he think I want to control as well, which might be true, none of my relationships, even with my family have ever been trusting and the one time I gave up trust seven years ago I was burned badly..

I also really do not think him living with us will be healthy for a growing relationship, especially as we will have a 'family' straight away.

Others have agreed with this on a normal relationship basis minus any jealousy at all, but now that she knows I am jealous

I REALLY like the guy and believe him but I don't know what to do...help please?