You referred to yourself as "not attractive." Please know that people are attracted to lots of different things. Physical beauty is only one factor, and it's highly subjective. A lot of guys wouldn't have seen my wife as beautiful when I met her, but she was beautiful TO ME. Part of it was her personality, and part of it was that certain factors that draw my attention just happen to be different from what might draw the attention of some other guys. Please don't write yourself off as "not attractive" just because you don't have a certain kind of appearance.

As for blaming your parents, if your parents made you feel unattractive, sure, I guess they have some responsibility for that, but what's the point to blaming them? How could your life, or even your attitude toward life, be made better by blaming your parents?

Even if you feel that plastic surgery was a bad decision, you acknowledge that it was your choice. I think recognizing our ability to make future choices to determine our own destinies is far more empowering than figuring out what role our parents might have played in past choices that we now regret.

I also don't know that plastic surgery is something I would "blame" on anyone. Although I think we value appearance far too much, if someone is born with a terribly disfigured face, I would see nothing wrong with that person choosing to have that fixed. (I had braces, partly for functional reasons, but I might have gotten them anyway since my teeth were very crooked.) Since I don't know what you looked like before, I have know idea whether I'd have thought plastic surgery was merited or not, but it doesn't matter what I think. You took a chance to try to improve an aspect of your life and, unfortunately, it didn't work out as you'd hoped. The fact that a decision didn't work out as we'd hoped doesn't necessarily mean it was a bad decision.