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Originally Posted by rolan86
Thanks for the advice, I think I'm going to give it a go spockette. Although I'm a bit confused on how I bring up what's bothering me with her, if I shouldn't mention the age gap, and the age gap is actually what's bothering me. and yeah I don't know if it's that I see her as a parent figure, but just maybe like as if it were an older sibling, or an older friends girlfriend or whatnot. hmm maybe a movie would be a good idea. I was thinking maybe a walk in the park. To be honest I have no idea what we would do. Right now we haven't been texting in a couple days. I've been holding off because I don't want to come across as clingy. The last thing I want to do is wind myself up in another "so... when are you free?" chase. Been through a countless number of those and they all were terrible. So I'm just chilling right now.
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As I said there are tactful ways of bringing up the age gap issue without directly referring to it like asking whether you have enough in common and perhaps follow that up with the fact that you want to be interesting etc for her. I would doubt the whole parent figure issue - she's not that old! If the age thing is really too intimidating then maybe you're best off remaining friends and finding someone else. I really don't think 6 years is such a big deal. It's a strange thing we have in our society - if a man dates a younger women he gets slapped on the back, if a woman dates a younger man she's either a cougar or a cradle snatcher
Perhaps you're just looking for excuses because, as I said before, this might not be what you actually want right now or maybe you know you need to work on your self esteem issues but aren't sure how. If you like someone and feel confident enough to undertake a relationship, age and things like that should surely be trivial matters?
Just enjoy life - so you've never had a relationship but look at your other achievements, getting through college, having a decent education and the likelihood of a better future. How many people are there who've had plenty of relationships but aren't sitting on the winning lottery ticket like you? Just something to think about.