This is a good topic. In the past I was in a physically and sexually abusive relationship. I'm still afraid of most men. But when I met my husband (who is wonderful) I got to know him very slowly. It took 5 months before we met for coffee. He had been hurt too, so he had trust issues too. It took a year of dating before I moved in w/ him. It took us five years since our first date to get married. It's been great. My advice is don't jump into anything too quickly and take your time. If he's worthy he will respect that. Good luck.