Liz, I am curious, how long you have been married and how old you are? I ask, because I am 40 years old, and your story reminds me of some things that my wife and I had to GROW through in our 20's. Back then, I remember, we were still partying and hanging out with friends, so insecurity was at a high.

We would regularly see people flirting with other peoples spouses. Nothing ever happened to my knowledge, but when you see it, or worse if he participates in it, then he would think that is how everyone is, including you.

I am not accusing him, and neither should you. I am only saying, jealousy is quite often a reflection of someone's insecurities. Those insecurities are based on "something". You said you have never given him a reason to suspect you of anything, so that can't be it. It is possible that he is still young enough that his eyes are still popping at the sight of other girls, and that makes him believe that you are the same, checking out other guys. His level of insecurity would therefore indicate that he is checking out a LOT of girls! But the point isn't that looking is a bad thing. Sometimes it is not controllable. But if he isn't ACTING on those impulses, then he should also be confident that YOU wouldn't act on those impulses.

Lastly, if you are very young, and he is displaying other warning signs of emotional abuse, you should consider seeing a marriage counselor together to nip it in the bud before things get ugly, and before you have children together. Sort it out, or get out.

In my opinion.