I was going to ask the same question as mojo321. How long have you guys been married.

Although I agree with mojo321, insecurities are high when you are younger, however, I don't ever remember it being like you are describing. That's just too much and I can't ever remember them going as far as being jealous of my family to the point that I couldn't go around them as much. If he is this controlling about what you are doing and where you are, it will probably expand into other areas too such as him wanting to control everything in your life.