I can feel your anger and frustration about your situation. I find it terribly, terribly sad that you are being punished for cross dressing. Cross dressing is not a crime and it hurts no one except those that are too narrow minded to except behavior that does not fall into society's mainstream ideals. I'm glad that you crossed that bridge and told your wife about it because now you can see her for what she really is even though it is a bitter pill to swallow. I personally think that there is more behind it though and that this is almost like a red herring. I suspect that she had not been happy with the relationship in the deepest crevices of her mind for whatever reason for a while and seized this opportunity regarding your cross dressing to dissolve your relationship because of what YOU have done, making her the innocent victim. Get it?- this way it absolves her of any responsibilities or guilt and the rest. She can walk out of this believing that it was all your fault, not hers. I fail to understand why she can not see you for who you are (a dependable, caring, hardworking husband) but chooses to focus on one small aspect of what you are (a cross dresser). What would she do in the future if your son was gay? Discard him and turn her back on him? You should not be begging for forgiveness for what you have done, nor should you be forced to live in a house abiding by the rules of no cross dressing and being questioned about it (what you do in private is your prerogative as long as it does not hurt anyone). I feel that you've beat yourself up enough about this in any case as you have said you have made peace with God and confessed. Personally I don't believe there was anything to confess, nothing to be forgiven about, and no peace to be made. Cross dressing is not a sin and you shouldn't be made to feel like you have committed one. It is sad that she has effectively made you feel like you have been so bad that you have ruined your marriage. You haven't at all, she has by choosing the path that she is on. We all have choices in life, she has a choice - either accept you warts and all and stay committed to your marriage or not accept you and destroy the marriage.

With regard to your plan for a 6 week trial separation - I think this is a good first step since it is not too drastic and sounds exceptionally reasonable in all respects. I am impressed that you appear to be thinking carefully and logically about things without getting caught up in the emotions and acting irrationally. Well done! There is nothing further you can do at this point. Put forth this trial separation proposal and see how you go. Keep posting with updates. I think it's great that you've found this community so that you can offload and get outside opinions. Hope it helps you on your journey.