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I do think some people have the idea that the first year should be all roses, but I think in some cases couples use the first year or so to work out issues. You folks are at least aware that the first year can be tough. All couples are going to have some disagreements. The key is how well the couple works them out.

I think you are on the right track about marriage counseling. If for some reason your spouse won't go, then please go yourself. There's no need to give up yet--or panic.