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Originally Posted by nicolerose
why do you think that im in love with only the idea of him?
what if he is really the great man that he seems to be?
i dont think that he is faking the way that he is, and i can tell that he is really a good person
i know that i would love him "for real" if i just had a chance with him
i know that he will have "flaws" but i am sure that i can overlook them
im not expecting him to be perfect and even now there are some things that i do not like about him but it doesnt matter, to me he is already perfect and i love him already
i cant really imagine what he could do, besides something like cheating on me, that would make me not love him
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..Ideal of him - it's because you do not know him. You can't 'love' someone you do not know.
..The man he
seems to be is not the same as the man
is. One is a presumption, the other is a fact. I hope he is a great man, but neither of us knows that, sorry.
...You dont
think he is faking anything, and you can tell. How can you tell? Do you actually know this man as a friend? If you knew and hung out with him then that would make sense. But if you do not know him, then it is again, a presumption. Sorry again.
You do not know he is perfect, even though to you he is - sorry, because you do not know him. It's not possible! I think all your views and judgements of this fella are based on your feelings now... And those are of infatuation, lust and all other things that feel really strong and powerful. You cannot tell if things would work out with you both, you can't tell anything - the only way you really would be able to tell is to get to know him.
I know you hate to hear all this, and for me not to agree with you. But am so sorry, I don't think anyone will agree 100%. I can sympathise and offer a shoulder to lean on, but I don't think I can ever agree.