I have to chime in with my opinion because I find this topic so interesting.

I've been with my husband for over 20 years and I don't really like how we kiss. I still think back to the very first time he kissed me and it was sudden, unexpected, and not romantic. I should have known then that we are not compatible kissers! Well, being the extremely shy person I am, it's only been in the last few years that I've been able to tell him some things that I like (physically), but I just can't bring myself to talk to him about kissing. How do you tell someone you care about that you have not enjoyed their kissing (at least on the mouth) for 20 years without hurting their feelings?!

I have two good kissing experiences. The first was with a guy I had a crush on for months and when we kissed, it was magical because I had wanted to be touched by him for so long. It was very gentle, soft and not agressive.

The second was with a guy who was always considerate in asking what I enjoyed. When we touched, he would ask "do you like this way or that way of being touched?" He behaved the same way with kissing. I know it sounds strange, but he didn't just assume he knew what type of kissing I liked and had the confidence (?) to ask; ie softer, more firm, do you want my tongue in your mouth, etc.

My husband and I fit together for so many other reasons, but maybe one day I'll work up the courage to talk to him about our kissing.

Anyway, there are so many other ways to have good physical contact with someone--if kissing doesn't do it for you, maybe something else will.