Welcome to PC Queen of Pentacles. I have been on medication since my teens and I'm 63 now. Thank heavens they are discovering new ones all the time because for me it took many tries and combinations to get it right.It took 2 years this last time to get it right. I expect to be on medication for the rest of my life and that's OK. I can live with that better than I can live with the disease.
I used Valerian tea for sleeplessness. Melatonin helps also. For menopausal relief calcium and magnesium are essential. I used to get PMS so badly that I'd have emotional meltdowns each period. When someone turned me on the calcium I was astonished with the results. I took 3 grams of calcium 3 days before my period was expected and from that day I never suffered from PMS again. I didn't even have too keep taking large amounts of calcium. I took the normal dose and still did well. I had an easy menopause so I don't know if it will work for that but I think it's worth exploring. I would do some serious research because too much calcium can cause kidney stones.
I hope you feel better soon.