thanks for all the replies, im still reading through some of them

i guess i just have really strong feelings about him and i am trying to deal with it all. i am already very hurt by this, but still i cannot let him go.

i want him to be with me without cheating, i am still hoping that he will break up with his girlfriend.

i really do think hes a good person, i know that i dont know this for sure but the chances are that he is a good person. i can tell. from how he interacts with other people, from how he interacted with me. i guess, ive already accepted everything about him.
i guess some people will find it strange. but there is something about him.. that makes me not care about anything bad that i will find.

i think that it could work out if i had a chance with him, i think that if he gave me a chance maybe he would actually like me. and if he did, and he did not cheat on me, then i dont care about anything bad that i find in him.

even though i dont know him, hes one of the rare people in my life htat i think that i can really fall in love with completely, that will become "real love" if we had a real chance at a relationship.

i think the initial feelings matters a lot to me, before i meet someone. because if its only the "experiences" then you could fall in love with anyone really, and then why do appearances or feelings of attraction before you get to know someone matter at all. then you can throw a guy and a girl and if they spend enough time together then it can be "love" after some experiences even if there was no initial attraction (i guess that does actually happen sometimes, that people fall in love with each other after they get to know each other better)

for me, the feeling before getting to know someone is very important. maybe i only want to be with someone that makes me feel this way
ive never really desired a relationship with someone that did not make me feel this way

scorpiosis37
"all of those things "you might learn about him" that are what CAUSE someone to fall in love in the first place"

i think that for me, the attraction before i get to know them, is really important. and i can fall in love with someone from just that. maybe i am just shallow.

i know that what is happening now is not "real love", but it hurts me a lot because i know that it can become real love if i just had a chance with him. and i think finding a potential guy like this, that makes me feel this way, is very rare.
ive already accepted everything about him. maybe what i want from a relationship or what it will take to make me happy isnt that deep.