Hi and I am glad that our replies have empowered you and made you feel more accepting of cross dressing. To be completely honest, if the only fault (for want of a better word) my husband had was to cross dress then I would be happy and have nothing to complain about. I would swap that for the years of narcissistic abuse I've copped in a flash. Cross dressing doesn't phase me at all and in reading your post I never once thought anything more of it that what it is - cross dressing - big deal. Reiterating what Hamster Bamster said, you need to stop viewing it as a crime because in my books it isn't at all and comes nowhere near a crime. As was pointed out there was never a need to confess - confess for what - wearing women's clothing from time to time!!! If you follow that logic then every tattoo wearing, body pierced, colored hair person, homosexual, transvestite, gender bending individual out there needs to be forgiven as well. The problem is that you, in your mind, felt that it was (is) wrong and withheld this from your wife until the situation that occurred which "forced" you to tell her. If this "confession" would have been met with a non-judgmental understanding from your wife it would have been case closed, end of story, live happily ever after. The problem is that her refusal to accept it as a variation of normal has verified what you long felt inside - that it is unacceptable and abnormal and deviant and perverted and whatever. From the way you write you sound like such a lovely guy, with a clear logical mind and caring attitude and this is what your wife needs to see - she needs to look beyond into the heart of a man that obviously loves her. As far as timing is concerned - you'll know when the timing is right. Keep posting as to how things are going.