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Originally Posted by Stringcheese
i recently started with a new T. for the first time i mentioned that i am suic and have the plan, arranging things, etc.
i have not really ever mentioned my feelings much in therapy. i got up the nerve to say how i was really feeling.
the response my T gave was "it's ok to do it."
am i wrong to hope to hear something like "you matter" or something like it matters.
clearly the T doesnt give a ****.
but on top of everything, it makes me feel like i dont want to talk about any feelings i have.
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I think it was risky for him to say that but on the other hand, he may have been looking for YOUR reaction to his comment. He wanted to see if his agreeing with you would make you more comfortable in talking about it with him. If it went that way, then his comment will have worked to get you talking and bring you closer to him. Instead, it sounds like it threw you and had the opposite effect. I think T's try different tactics to see what helps them get through to the client. This one did not work with you. I'd go back and see where your sessions go from here. Maybe even tell him you thought it was unusual that he didn't object to your sui thoughts. Often, speaking of sui is a cry for help, for attention, for someone to CARE!! That caring should come from your T. If you don't see any signs of it in the next session or two, find another T.