Confrontation is a funny thing, like that! It's not that you don't want to say anything, but don't want to say the wrong thing.
If you haven't seen nor heard from her in 4-5 months, the text route sounds a good way to go.
Something along the lines of, I know we haven't talked in a while. But, I won't be available in (month)(year).
If she asks why, the word 'available', leaves you open to say whatever comes to mind, first!!
I have some family obligations or something along that line, without making too big of an excuse ordeal should work.
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Originally Posted by MaryJayne47
Funny, usually that's exactly what I would do! Get out of my head haha 
I hate confrontation, but for some reason in this situation I feel like I should not avoid telling someone I'm uncomfortable. I don't know why, but I actually think I should deal with this one. Maybe because I've been really trying to do things that usually make me anxious so I see that I'm going to come through the fog and still be alive.
I guess what I'm struggling with is what exactly to say to her? I know that if I don't figure out what I'm going to say, I won't go through with the confrontation. And you know she's nice, and I know your wedding is supposed to be a happy time, so I think I kind of owe it to her to be honest. I don't want to make her feel stupid for asking me. But there's no way I can go through with being in the wedding. And the way I see it, i don't really want to be friends anyways, so it wouldn't bother me if she's was upset by it, (well I would at the initial confrontation). But I still feel its better to be up front with her.
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