What would you say about someone with these traits? I've had the unfortunate experience of having to deal with someone like this over the last 12 years. They've had me in their "crosshairs" this long. From day one, they wouldn't face me, or deal with me or even acknowledge me except to the extent that they could undermine me or cause problems for me. I'm just curious for other opinions because, none of this makes sense to my mind.

• Extremely controlling, they must be the person to initiate it, otherwise, they undermine it and trash it.
• Appear to be extremely jealous as they discount everything about me and even trash everything I like. They don't just come out and say it directly, rather they are extremely controlled and very subtle about it. At the right opportunity they would say... oh why would someone do that... those kinds of things don't matter etc.... I think I'm perceived as the threat.. I guess. I can't reason it any other way.
• They really believe in their mind that how they would handle something is superior. Basically that they are superior.
• Extremely judgmental.
• They feel entitled to be treated a certain way regardless.
• They constantly accuse me of the very thing they are doing TO me. Meanwhile I am clueless.
• For 12 years, I can't recall one time that they took responsibility for anything that has happened. It's basically always someone else's fault.

Has anyone dealt with someone like this before? I'm stuck in a situation in which I have to deal with this person a few times a year, but during those times, it is almost hell.