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Originally Posted by hamster-bamster
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And, in the date rape analogy, let us suppose that after raping the girl, the guy goes out, buys 50 scarlet roses and a diamond ring, and comes back to wait patiently until the date rape drug ceases to sedate the girl, because he wants to proclaim his love for her and propose to her.
We would say that while this is all cute, it STILL does not justify the date rape, right?..
So... nothing justifies removing your power to make decisions. And you are finding it hard to forgive that he removed your power to make decisions. And not that he has a kiddo. This is serious stuff. You are not being petty at all.
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I have thought of this in the rape scenario you mentioned. I know what he did was VERY WRONG and I fully realize that I am supporting this behavior by staying with him. I am trying to grow from this experience. If I can't then I know my limits. To be honest, I don't know if I can or if my trust has been broken to the point that I can't ever let it go. There are so many variables here. Also, my biopsy came back positive, so they are starting treatment this next week...while kiddo is here. I got the results from my dr about 5 minutes after kid got here. At least my bf isn't forcing interaction with me and the kiddo. I can do it on my own terms and when I get agitated, I go to our bedroom and post on here....or do homework.
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