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Originally Posted by kala83
so both me and my therapist have started to realize that the actions my mother makes more pushes me away from change then encouraging me.
she is very obsessed with items in her house and where they are how they are put up.
and she tries to enforce her views onto me as well.
we have always had a dysfunctional relationship, and it needs to be worked on and fixed.
at this point I am dead set on finding a job(s) so I can get an income and get out of this house.
being in my mother's house is breaking my spirit and I am at the point of emotional break down.
just cause there is soo much negativity in this house and just harsh emotions toward pretty much everyone.
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I feel like I could have written your post. Just like you, I am an adult and I live with my mother, who tears me down when I don't bend to her will. I do have a job, but because I have to pay her rent and my job doesn't pay that much, I can't really save very much.
Just remember that there are two people in this relationship, and it shouldn't be all up to you in order to make things better. It's commendable that you want to have a better relationship with her. But I also understand wanting to have some boundaries set into place in order to protect yourself.
I wish you luck in your job search. You will find one. And when you do find one, you can maybe rent a room or live with a roommate. Take care, and keep us updated.