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Jul 13, 2013, 04:13 PM
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Member Since: Mar 2013
Location: USA
Posts: 1,486
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Originally Posted by growlycat
Jeez, my T called me when my cat died. Your T's boundaries seem a little harsh-ever consider shopping around while still keeping this T for now? It may feel like "cheating" but you have the right to get your needs met. Extra contact for such an important loss isn't asking too much.  |
My feeling is that this is not about boundaries at all, it's about what is in the best interests of the patient. It seems very reasonable to me that dealing with this through text will likely not be effective. I think getting your needs met does not equate to that any and all outside contact is *therapeutic* (i.e. will truly help the patient). I think it's about the quality of contact/interaction with the therapist, not quantity.
To the OP, I think it would be a good idea to ask for an extra session. I think this is something that may meet your needs for extra support, and if it's not enough, you can talk then face to face and in-depth about what kind of additional help is out there.
I don't think a therapist not wanting to communicate through text (*especially* about such a difficult issue) means having too-tight boundaries. Again, it's about what will most and more deeply help the patient, not frequency of contact, no matter what kind.
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