her mother is in jail for eight months for a financial crime. I am wondering if I should take my 14 year old daughter to visit her but I am not sure if I want her to be inside a jail
it has nothing really to do with the mother. She made some bad decisions but it was out of character so I think she just got herself into a bad situation and make some poor decisions, She also never did anything bad at all before this. Also, her mother is showing regret and no defense at what she did and has admitted to being a bad influence to her daughter so that is why I am still willing to stick by her. Also she was not an absent parent or anything And I am not defending her or saying she should not serve her punishment or anything either, it is really only the type of environment. I hear also it is a hassle to get in and you don't even get much time to speak. She can also think "mom is in jail, she has no right to tell me what to do" My daughter seems to be OK with visiting though she said it is kind of cool that her mother is locked up and is now the one being ordered around by others. I asked what she meant and she said she was just joking. I think that is OK to try to crack a joke to make the situation feel less bad and that a better way of handing the situation instead of being hysterical about it. If I do take her what should I say to her beforehand to help her prepare? My wife said bring her if she wants to visit but if she doesn't it is all right.
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