So sad to hear that she has obviously not accepted the situation and moved on and is so bitter that she can't refrain from hurting you. She is playing the victim and blaming YOU. This seems to be her bitter and twisted way of coping with the situation. I'm concerned to think that she may speak like this to your daughter as well. Try to have as minimal verbal communication as possible so as not to give her the opportunity to fire her hurtful words at you until such time as she moves on to the next phase of acceptance and forgiveness. Whatever you do don't let this get under your skin and feel happy and comfortable with your life's choices and decisions. I am sure this will eventually change as she moves along in her life. She is effectively unraveling you with her words so please just process them, acknowledge them, feel them and then move on from them. All the best.