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This is something I've found to be really curious -because I've seen others' worry about this as well, that after getting through talking about everything from the past, there won't be anything to talk about anymore and/or the therapist will no longer be interested.
Aren't there other things you could always talk about? Relationships, depression (if you suffer from this), things going on in your life now, meeting goals you want for yourself for the future (in other words, talking about present and future)?
I just don't think therapists are only interested in the past. Or even only interested in bad things that have happened to us. There's so so much more to anyone than the past. Even as far as the 'past' there are all of the years between whatever trauma(s) you have experienced (especially if you're talking about childhood) and now -what about all of those experiences and how they affect you now, in both positive and negative ways?
I know I've had tons and tons of experiences between childhood/adolescence and now, some negative, but a lot of them positive, some life-changing, many I'd never want to change. Even in childhood/adolescence, I'm very cognizant of the fact that I also had good experiences. I think of myself as a whole person, the sum of *everything* I have experienced, relational experiences, emotional experiences, other sorts of experiences. All of this makes who I am today, and makes for a lot to talk about. Not to mention present and future. I think everyone is the sum of tons of things, whether one chooses to focus on one part of one's life or not.
Do you feel -given your fears- that you talk so much about the past *in part* because you're afraid of losing him if and when you stop talking about this?
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