I so totally do the same thing. I have open my mouth a few times and it was like the flood gates of my heart and soul came out and people look at me like OH MY GOD, I had no idea. Then they avoided me. I am sure now that was just my perceptions. I was with a church group as well. I felt a little awkward for a month or so, but after no one mentioned it again that awkwardness started to disappear. While in private company of a member I had that person ask me about my ordeal and ask how I was doing. That confirmed to me that people did care, they were listening, and didn't say anything because they didn't want to embarrass me, or didn't know what to say.

I was sorry at the time I said anything but after a great deal of time, I feel much better about having spoken up. I know and truly feel like my ordeal with rape may some day help some other person. I might be able to save someone else from pain or be able to help and be better able to relate to there needs.