Fmpro, wow, that's a tough call. Do you think your 14 yr old daughter is emotionally capable of making the decision to see her mother or not? It might give her an idea about the consequences of breaking the law. And, if she is going to continue the relationship after her mom gets out of jail visiting could work out for the best--there are so many factors involved. Yes, I think it's a good sign that your daughter came make a joke about it but is she minimizing the severity of her mothers crimes? It would be hard to not have a connection with your mom for 8 months and then have to catch up on what has happened during that time. Maybe a compromise--what about writing letters to keep in touch? Just my thoughts.....D.