((((((((((((((((((((Theyrealme and Kathryn))))))))))))))))))))))

I'm so sorry. It sounds like you are doing everything right but maybe your wife just needs to have a good cry. We, females, do feel better after we release the stress that builds up inside us.
I do hope your wife feels better soon and I'm praying you guys get your house.
Take care, thinking of you both,
Linda