Thank you both so much for you kind and knowledgable words - I have thought of what you said but hadn't realized it if that makes sense.

My father is a difficult situation - just dealing with what he has done is enough for me = having him register would as you have said only bring more complication when he really needs more care and needs to go into a home of another sort.

My husband has an appointment with his psych friday afternoon - I am talking to his psych on Thursday to confirm the appointment and will try and let him know as much as I can in a 5 minute phone call - he (psych) always calls me the day before appointments to find out how things are going - he's great for that.

I am also considering making an appointment with the psych for me, I have not yet and no I am not on any antidepressants (I have my dogs and our walks - my form of therapy, but it is limited).

I really appreciate your being here and your words of wisdom - thanks so much.