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Originally Posted by eskielover
Our minds so stop hearing things after we hear certain words that shut us down.....I am so glad that she was able to express what you were unable to hear the last time. It's understandable that you weren't able to hear the good part of her being willing to continue on with you but having better boundaries in place.......
Maybe that's good reason when there is good & bad news to express the good news first & then the bad because otherwise, the good can end up being shut out by the time it's expressed.
Sounds like she might be rather NEW to psychotherapy? Or maybe has never worked with someone with the difficulty of problems that you are going through. Sometimes it's so easy to start down a path & without knowing it.....get beyond safe boundaries.....then it becomes necessary to take a step back.....this happens in all kinds of relationships, not just that with one's T.....usually they are more knowledgable about boundaries......that's why I was wondering about her experience level?.....but she does sound conscience & that IS IMPORTANT.
Sounds like you will both be in a better place with each other now that the boundaries have been established & may be able to progress even farther than before  |
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It's true, sometimes you only hear the bad things, I heard it for sure that day. While the good news was much more than the bad. I got stuck in my mind with the 'bad' news I can not remember the whole session only the 'bad' news while much has been said. I am glad that she has explained later to me. My T is a psychiatrist and psychotherapist and has a lot of experience with trauma therapy. I'm her third client with DID, she sees them 2 times a week maybe more. She lives two hours away from were i live and works in this city one day a week. she thinks I need more than 1x per week therapy but that is not possible in this situation. It took three years before I trust her and opened up to her I always kept her at a distance I was not aware of it but i did it. Me open up to her was a breakthrough but also showed that more therapy was needed. She knows that keeping in touch is important in order to keep the process going. Because normally i pull back, I did that for three years. We have every day a form of contact but lately also in the evening and that was too much for her and for me.
When she said that she should take care of herself she gave an 'evening clock' what is reasonable and to understand, I did not hear that. I felt rejected. I do not make easy contact but one of my alters does, and she needs a border. Also because I feel uncomfortable with it and ask no help for myself when I really need it. She did not reject me only a boundary which is good.
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