Update, for anyone who cares.

Living together for a week, i've run into a problem of my own making. I've been living so long with my ex wife, and her reactions, mannerisms, attitude, etc. are all ingrained in my brain. When she doesn't talk to me, I know it means she's mad about something, etc. and I grew tired of trying to fix things.

Now, the problem. My girlfriend has some of the same mannerisms (we really all do), but they mean different things when she does them.

What do I do? It's so ingrained, that when my girlfriend doesn't talk to me, I automatically assume it's because she's mad, and i'm tired of running to try to fix things, so I pull away. Then she notices that, and not having been mad, wonders why I pull away. What I should do, is simply talk to her at the time instead of assuming.

So, to the point. I've got to realize this is an entirely different person, and just because an action is the same, it doesn't mean the thought or meaning was the same. Very hard to do.

We've talked it through, and she understands though. She has some of the same problems from her last relationship (not wanting to always be the "fixer"), so we're going to have to compromise.

If anyone actually made it through that, thanks for listening!