Thanks for all the advice.

My mom seems really unstable all the time. She constantly contradicts herself all the time and she's really defensive, so talking back to her doesn't work. She manipulates people's thoughts. Therefore, my dad basically has no personal opinions and does whatever he can to satisfy her... and always puts her before me. I'm not saying that he has to love me more, it's just that he acts like I don't matter. And between my mom and my dad, there's always so much arguing about in-laws... mainly my mom being defensive about how her husband's mother treats her.

I always stay quiet and do not say a word when they argue about me or otherwise because I don't want to have any say in it. I don't want to take sides, because my mom always thinks I'm on *her* side but sometimes I secretly think my dad is more reasonable as a person.

In short, it's confusing because my parents both love me to death, but they sure have strange ways of showing it. I start out with having my own stance but then I get manipulated by my mom's opinion (usually when she's feeling defensive) and my dad always tries to satisfy my mom to avoid conflict, even though it's unreasonable and he pretends I'm not there. Basically, yeah.

I don't know if it's me or if it's them... because I acknowledge that I'm flawed too. But I think there is a line between respect and support and they don't seem to know that line.

- AJ