LOL... I will indeed publish a paper if such a thing happens. It has not completely helped but a little. I could also contribute the little change to my return to being more pleased with him. As we all know a women's sexuality is often tied to her emotional state of happiness with the relationship. It has not been an easy road for our relationship and it is just now getting back to a point where we enjoy being around each other again. That might have a tad to do with it also.

I in absolutely no way can use pot as a cure since I work within the department of corrections. They tend to frown upon that....and put you in jail. Somehow I don't think that would help further my career any and I'm pretty sure the judge would not see sex as a reasonable excuse...or maybe he would..who knows. Thanks for the advice I will take it to heart and try some of the things you suggested.