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Originally Posted by liz0614
Thank you for the responses! To answer a few questions. We are both middle age in our 40's. This is a second marriage for both of us and I don't remember him being like this at first. Maybe I was wrong to marry him. Maybe there were signs all along I just didn't see or didn't want to see. I don't know but all I know is what I have described here is just a small piece of what is going on. There is so much more. I am seeing a therapist but he won't go. He goes 1 or 2 times and because it costs money or he doesn't like what they have to say he won't go back. I feel like I am always on guard having to watch what I say because if I say something the wrong way then my day goes very bad....He is very negative. Another example:
I lost my Father who I was very close to and after he died I had a picture of him in my wallet. When my husband saw it he went off the deep end asking why I didn't have a picture of him? Well I don't keep any pictures in my wallet (I don't even have ones of the kids) but I found a picture of my Dad and stuck in in there. I haven't heard the end of it....
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Now i have more information on your situation i'm better informed of the seriousness of it. The part of your post in bold particularly concerns me. This man demonstrates no desire to change - none at all. How well that will bode for your future circumstances is something we can't know but can certainly predict. In truth you sound exhausted and i agree that luckily children aren't involved because it sounds like the unhappiness your experiencing isn't something anyone else should have to deal with let alone you. I understand you're probably feeling a mix of everything from anger to sadness to disillusionment - be assured it's not uncommon nor is it
wrong to feel the way you do. I hope that with the help of your therapist and all the support you'll have here, you can find a way out of this. All the very best.