Friday night, my boyfriend's best friend, James, came over to outline my boyfriend's new tattoo, and we were watching CNN and he started making racist comments. I made it clear that I didn't agree,but he kept going... So I went for a walk, hoping that he'd be gone by the time I got back. He wasn't, and he kept insisting on talking to me, even though I had tears on my face and my body language was saying No. Finally I went into our bedroom to read until he left. Every time he had to pee, and he had to pee a lot, he'd ask what I was doing and blah blah blah...

So the next day, when the Zimmerman verdict was announced,he texts me saying "not guilty, Woot!" I was so pissed off, and I told him to "**** off you ignorant asshole." He responds back, "LMFAO. Tell that to the jury you bleeding heart *****." I said "You need to leave me alone. You didnt get the hint last night. i dont want to hear your ignorant racist crap anymore. Stop texting me"

Then, he called my boyfriend to gloat and my boyfriend put him on speakerphone, so I got up to leave. My boyfriend then accidentally hung up on James and asked me if I was okay. "No. im not okay. i dont appreciate your best friend goading me into crap." He gave a frustrated sigh and turned back to his phone to redial as I left for a walk.

The next day, I went into the computer room and asked my boyfriend if I could ask him a question. At first he said no. A min or two later he says "what is your question?" I said " What do you expect me to do about This thing with James?" He says " What do you mean?" I said, I mean, I dont really want anything to do with someone who will disrespect me like that." He turned back to his computer and said "I knew there was a reason I said no in the first place." And said nothing else for the next five minutes which is when I left the room.

I actually heard him on the phone saying "I'm sorry about this thing with Blaize." I feel like he is mad at me because of what happened, and I dont understand why its acceptable for someone to goad me into a response and then calling me a bleeding heart ***** for it.

Someone please explain what I did wrong? I know I shouldnt have called him an asshole, but does he bear no responsibilty for trying to shove his racist views at me and goading me into it?