You are definitely not wasting anyones time KV - this is what the forum is for. Emotional abuse can be extremely difficult to define as the definitions and agreement around what it is is still very blurry. One of the best definitions I have found is this one. Psych central also has a good list of questions you might want to ask yourself here. The best thing I can suggest is to have a look and see if any of that is relevant to you personally as no-one knows your story better than you.

Ultimately though, the most important thing is how it impacts on you and from what you have said it seems to be having a pretty negative impact. I would really suggest talking to someone if you can about what is happening and the impact it is having on you. Emotional abuse is often not seen as important but it can have strong and lasting impacts on a persons health if not addressed.