I'm a woman. I hate piercing and tattoos on a man. It's a total turn off. Don't mark up your body or change who you are to impress anyone. The girl that's worth your time will be impressed with you for you. If you want to get a tattoo for your own pleasure, that's great. Don't think that women will suddenly change their opinion of you. Not all women like the same thing in a man.

You don't need to be an asshole to attract women. You do, however, need to be confident. We love that in a guy. That's why you see all of those jerks getting girls. They are overly confident. When we say a guy is "too nice", typically that means "too shy" or "too insecure" or "too nervous". Judging just based on the nature of this post, maybe the reason you can't seem to get a girl is because of all of your self hatred. I struggle with self hatred too and I don't think I'd truly be able to have a healthy relationship until I resolve that a little.

Women in abusive relationships don't leave him for a variety of reasons. One being that he manipulates her by destroying her self esteem so she feels like she needs him to survive or that she'll never be able to find another man. It's not real love. It's fear and manipulation. Do you really want that? Don't you want a woman that loves you even though she doesn't have to? The way I see it is that if your options are being single or being in an abusive relationship you're better off single.