Hi tangerine pie, I'm sorry for your troubles and wish I had some answers for you. I understand what it is like to give and give yet get no appreciation for your efforts. I wonder if your last line may hold part of a solution, you want to find supportive friends. Maybe you could try a more supportive rather than helping approach. Express your understanding of whatever they're going through but try not act on anything unless they have asked you to. By the same token, if you need help ask for it, don't expect someone will just notice and do what they can to help. You may appear stronger to them than you feel you are. Just something to think about