I can't say that it is always the t. In my case, being on t number 4, I believe I am like Lillyleaf in that I don't verbalize my real needs and therapy is very tough. I do not like to give in to my emotions either, another point Lilly mentioned.

In my case, I think I know how to use therapy, but my reasons for being there make it very difficult to verbalize these needs. A therapist can't read our minds, and in order to make the most of a session we must be honest and forthcoming.

I do have one concern, Lilly. Does your therapist say that you don't need to be there, or is this your thought? If your t does say this, then I would say that it is time to find a new therapist.

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