i really apprectiate all the posters who gave me advice. i am so sick of not knowing how to deal with this. my only option that i can see is to just stop talking or enteracting with her all togeather. i hate that i wont ever get to enjoy her company again but i really dont see any other way around this. i dont want to hurt my wife. and i aleady hurt enough everyday as it is so the pain i feel for losing my relationship with my sisterinlaw wont be anything new i guess.

again i would really like to thank everyone for being so kind and understanding in my time of need.