When someone is "confident" in themselves or has a tendency to be "very organized and in control", that often can be a "turn off" to others. Often the body language that goes along with "I am happy with myself and organized and in control" can be "intimidating" to others. We cannot see ourselves and the kind of messages we give off like others see us, so often we do things we are very unaware of that "turn others off and towards a thinking of "oh there she is miss know it all perfect". It could remind them of a "controlling and opinionated parent even though that is "not your intention". Being a very organized self satisfied person can send a message to others that you are too "judgmental". This is something that can happen to anyone who is confident and organized. People often do not want to be around anyone that can remind them of their shortcomings or areas they struggle with and don't want to have it pointed out to them in someway. High achievers tend to be "lonely" and do not realize "why".

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