Lilly, I know exactly how you feel. Unless I'm really, really depressed, I look fine to my Ts. I also feel like I don't know how to use therapy. I mention some problem, and the therapist offers a solution...but I have no faith that the solution will actually work to fix my problem! I also believe that there aren't many good ts (or pdocs) out there. An example of some of the things my ts have done (I've seen several):

T #1: laughed at me when I said in desperation that I had eaten 12 cookies that day. I was depressed and my eating was out of control. I was so scared that I was going to turn into a blimp, and she had no sensitivity. She just laughed.

T#2: Said that I wasn't bipolar because if I was, I'd "spend one session crying and the next high-fiving him". Not everyone has the same symptoms! He really needs to educate himself.

T#3: No follow up. At all. One week I'd tell her my suicide plan in detail; the next, she wouldn't even ask if I was still in danger or if I was doing any better.

T#4: Talks about herself, all the time. She's leaving her husband to pursue a man 30 years her junior. Her parents were so abusive that they never should have had children. Sometimes I feel like her T!

So, 4 Ts and none of them decent. I think that there needs to be some standards for Ts. I hope to enter the mental health field, and I plan to make big changes. Most Ts should be more sensitive to their patients' needs, IMO.