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Old Jul 16, 2013, 11:10 AM
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Originally Posted by Secretum View Post
My problem is that all of my functional impairment is social, which no one seems to care about. If I was failing classes, or not getting out of bed, or unable to work, then no one would deny that I had a problem and I would get help. But because my problems include severe issues with connecting with people, I'm invisible. It's so unfair, in my opinion. We NEED social interaction to survive. Loneliness, especially loneliness that is unlikely to remit because it is due to something inside of you and not the situation, is hell. Ts and pdocs need to get that in their heads and start taking the socially impaired as seriously as they take patients with impairments in other areas.

Sorry for the rant; this is just one of the things that really gets me mad.

When all of this happened, btw, no one noticed. I went from being a bubbly, social butterfly who loved everyone to someone who never talked, had no friends, and spent all her time at home locked up in her room because she was afraid her own family was judging her. And nobody even noticed. If I hadn't been so invisible to other people, I could have gotten help so much sooner. Maybe I wouldn't be so behind in life. Maybe I wouldn't be so lonely. Maybe I wouldn't feel like a failure. My life could have been so much better if people had only paid attention!
You are absolutely right. They define functioning narrowly; they basically look at you as a robot, sort of - are you able to go to school, work? you are fine. But we are not robots - we are humans, aka social animals.

It would be awful to go from being a bubbly social butterfly to an invisible person. I actually did the same, but it was due to being a victim of abuse + having the self-defeating personality disorder with dependency (meaning - I isolated myself; I had friends who tried to help, but I pushed everybody away; it is different from not having friends at all, but the result - horrible social isolation - is the same so I get what you are saying perfectly well).
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Secretum
Thanks for this!
Secretum