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Old Jul 16, 2013, 12:16 PM
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My problem is that all of my functional impairment is social, which no one seems to care about. If I was failing classes, or not getting out of bed, or unable to work, then no one would deny that I had a problem and I would get help. But because my problems include severe issues with connecting with people, I'm invisible. It's so unfair, in my opinion. We NEED social interaction to survive. Loneliness, especially loneliness that is unlikely to remit because it is due to something inside of you and not the situation, is hell. Ts and pdocs need to get that in their heads and start taking the socially impaired as seriously as they take patients with impairments in other areas.

Sorry for the rant; this is just one of the things that really gets me mad.

When all of this happened, btw, no one noticed. I went from being a bubbly, social butterfly who loved everyone to someone who never talked, had no friends, and spent all her time at home locked up in her room because she was afraid her own family was judging her. And nobody even noticed. If I hadn't been so invisible to other people, I could have gotten help so much sooner. Maybe I wouldn't be so behind in life. Maybe I wouldn't be so lonely. Maybe I wouldn't feel like a failure. My life could have been so much better if people had only paid attention!

thing is... now you are in place to help yourself. You know best what YOU need.

Past is past. And I gotten sent to shrinks and it was disaster and I am glad my mom didn't go with their suggestions. So you never know. It's often choice between two horrible scenarios.

Right now you should deal with the impact... and don't drive yourself crazy, please.

As for social grace... I wish there was easy fix. Maybe with increasing troubledness we'll soon live in society where everybody is awkward. Not sure therapists can help you with your social interaction. Fact is one psychology graduate I know is staying in abusive relationship for some ten years. Other is right now in a psychiatric asylum. Other is still searching for answers (and job) and is kinda awkward himself.

Can you embrace some of your awkwardness? YOu can only change so much... maybe some of it is YOU. Maybe it can work in your favour if you stop fighting it (people seem to know when you are being too fake and completely putting on act of different person).
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