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Old Jul 16, 2013, 01:51 PM
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Originally Posted by VenusHalley View Post
Can you embrace some of your awkwardness? YOu can only change so much... maybe some of it is YOU. Maybe it can work in your favour if you stop fighting it (people seem to know when you are being too fake and completely putting on act of different person).
Secretum: I agree.

Awkwardness CAN be sexy, if you know what I mean, just as anything genuine can be sexy.

Example: in my opinion, breast implants are not sexy. I can understand that some women get them to get social acceptance to fit a certain standard; I get that. Some get them because of a job requirement - I get that, too. What I do not get is how, I am being told, some women get implants to improve their sex lives - I simply cannot comprehend how that can be the case. I mean, the implants are FAKE - who would want to touch them? weird.

But real breasts are worth being looked at or touched (not touched by me since I am technically very straight, but you get the point - I can still see sensuality in women despite being straight) regardless of size, just because of that touching, poignant, vulnerable humanity inherent in real breasts, no matter size or shape. No matter size or shape. And, real breasts are all different, unlike implants - no woman is the same.

So same thing - being your true self will be sexy for some people who can appreciate it, and I am sure that you will meet such people sooner or later. Being genuine, however vulnerable, awkward, or insecure, always beats putting up a fake facade, in the eyes of people who can sense and appreciate your true essence, and ultimately, only such people matter.
Thanks for this!
venusss