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These rules are just silly. Many people fall within these norms, just by happenstance, but many also fall outside them.
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Absolutely. But I disagree that it is just by happenstance. If that were true, there would be an equal distribution of tall girls married to husbands shorter than they. But that isn't true. It is skewed the way I described. I wasn't claiming "rules" for the whole population. I've stated that several times. They are "norms" that form from peoples inherent comfort zones.
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Yes, and people of color have to work twice as hard to get ahead. Women have to work twice as hard to get ahead. People from disadvantaged backgrounds have to work twice as hard to get ahead. Gay/lesbian people have to work twice as hard to get ahead. The height of straight, white males is clearly not the most salient category. If you really feel that way, then you don't know what it is like to experience real prejudice
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Oh, I never said ANYTHING about trying to get a height thing to
compete against the "binary" A or B things like race, sex, sexual orientation....but the first word of your paragraph WAS "yes". So you understand. Albeit, you understand at a MUCH greater extent than my piddely little height problem. I totally get that. But that doesn't mean it isn't real.
I find it very interesting how much everyone wants to deny that height discrimination exists. Or obesity discrimination.
Heck, I'll admit it. I had a friend at a different job a few years back that was very obese. He had no friends and no plans for the weekend, ever. Everyone seemed to get along with him just fine. He would talk about the game last night, or whatever was in the news. But the obesity was always a bit of a hurdle for people to get "too connected" on a friendship level. People would hold back on letting him into their lives. Am I the only one honest enough to admit that horrible things like this happen, without blaming it on some personality issue of the dude?
Please know, that from the responses this thread has given me, I will seriously look inward for ways I can improve my social skills. But what I am talking about DOES exist, on some level, for some people all of the time, and for others, never. But it happens. I'm sorry if that is a painful message.
And it ISN'T as prevalent in society as racism, or sexism. I know that. But the tradeoff is, nobody believes it is a real thing.